Writing your future



It’s not very exciting, but last year I had a problem with one of my outside drains and was advised by the company who unblocked it for me to inspect all of them. This was to ensure that all the drains had all been correctly installed by the house builders in case there were other defects that might cause problems later on. It was coming up to the end of autumn. I was annoyed that I was responsible for a building defect, but responsible I was. I knew one thing: I didn’t want to start any intrusive work outside my house during the winter months if there was a major problem. I would need to wrap up and batten down the hatches in winter; my neurology prefers that I hibernate like a bear, but I did have this problem. What should I do?


Writing your future

Creative freedom



For a few weeks I agonised over whether to do the work or not. What if there were problems, AND, what if there weren’t and I’d spent all that money? I cycled around whether or not to start the work, and then I made a decision. I decided that problem or not, I didn’t want to deal with work during the winter, I’d prefer it to happen in the spring in the hope of better weather conditions.

I still don’t know if I made the right decision, but the point is, once I’d made a decision to wait, I allowed myself the space to stop thinking about it and used that energy for other things that were important to me at the time.

Indecisiveness and cycling around thoughts stems from the fear of making a mistake, and the false belief that while we worry about something, we’re doing something about it. The ego loves to create thoughts and our very identity can be caught up in them. If this doesn’t sound positive to mental health, that’s because it’s not. It’s the root of anxiety. Left unchecked, it can become debilitating.


Of the psychology we have come to know in our time, Freud and Jung asserted that creativity was to do with our subconscious and all that was repressed being allowed to flow; the subject of quantum physics has unpacked this further—that creativity is the not manifested, and more specifically according to Amit Goswami, PhD, and theoretical nuclear physicist, it’s the realm of possibilities.

Even if we didn’t have a specific problem to solve cycling around our minds, creating mental abstraction that clouded our creativity, what would it mean if we just stayed curious to what our own hearts really desired when making decisions?



Writer Ernest Hemmingway took great pleasure in reading about his life contributions in his own obituary. He was able to read it because the press incorrectly reported his death after a plane crash. Hemmingway was able to see the kind of person he had been, and, what he still wanted to be.

What decisions are you putting off making? Where certain aspects of your life are concerned, you may make a choice, but could you decide it’s also possible to do nothing about them right now and stop thinking about them? With the clouds lifted from your head, what might your heart call out for?

I’d like to invite you to journal a fake obituary including what you’ve done in your life to date, very much in the way you might write a CV to list your achievements, but don’t just list achievements, list experiences and relationships, what people mean to you and you to them. Is there anything in your obituary that’s missing? That’s to say, if you died tomorrow, is there stuff not written because it’s not yet manifested in your life?

If yes, then write in your fake obituary what you’d still like to manifest, and set out to make decisions to get you there. The obituary serves as a kind of map for your future…you may change this several times, but the point is to have some goals and get there, to have direction and some plans. After you’ve done this, will you then begin to know what else to say yes to, and to which you’ll say no?

How did you feel after you completed this exercise?

Lyndsey Pearce


Lyndsey Pearce

Lyndsey Pearce is a UK based writer. She lives with four male gerbils, but only knows the name of the albino because the other three are identical brown. She eases her guilt over this by singing the outro of “Humiliation” by The National to them all, badly. “


Quiet misfits mulls over introversion, energy management, autism in females, highly sensitive people, managing loss, LGBT women, creativity, and being yourself.  

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